Love lies and the science of online dating
There’s a debate we have in the newsroom – if not daily, then pretty close to it. (Hint, that happened yesterday afternoon.)It’s news, yes. But the memos have been leaked so much that there just isn't anything very interesting to say. So sometimes, we do the best we can in the time we have. Let’s say the former head of the Federal Bureau of Investigation releases memos detailing his recollections of conversations with the president.“Where certain people have a whole lot of power and others have next to none,” says one author of a book on the subject, “that’s when you start to see problems.” Basyle “Boz” Tchividjian has devoted most of his career to an emotionally and spiritually wrenching task.
Pastor Hybels called such accusations, which had previously led to an internal church investigation, “flat-out lies.”A well-known Alabama evangelist and author, Acton Bowen, was arrested last week after being charged with child sex abuse.Last month, the president of the Southern Baptist Convention Executive Committee, Frank Page, resigned after admitting to a “a morally inappropriate relationship.” Earlier this year, too, the Memphis megachurch pastor Andy Savage admitted he had engaged in a “sexual incident” with an underage teen in 1998, after the woman shared her #Church Too story online.His congregation gave him a standing ovation after his public confession, but last month he resigned.“No one is surprised at any of this,” says Bauman, who last year helped to organize a corollary of the #Church Too movement called #Silence Is Not Spiritual.“We hope and wish and pray and, technically, we even believe that the church should have a whole different standard to measure up to,” she says.Allegations against a few prominent pastors, along with the rise of a #Church Too hashtag, point to simmering concern. Tchividjian and others suggest the problem is much deeper than has yet been acknowledged.The values of forgiveness and redemption are essential and powerful agents in Christian life, but in cases of abuse they can often be turned into protection for the powerful, covering behaviors that prey on women and children sexually, these experts say.