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When I have my own undergraduate students read about the “true self” research, many are shocked by the results, having believed that the Internet was rife with dishonesty.The idea that people could be, in some ways, genuine online than off strikes them as counterintuitive.However, research suggests that while slight misrepresentations on online dating sites are quite common, major lies are actually rare.Online daters realize that while, on the one hand, they want to make the best possible impression in their profile, on the other hand, if they do want to pursue an offline relationship, they can’t begin it with outright falsehoods that will quickly be revealed for what they are (Toma et al., 2008).But the research suggests that when you’re chatting with someone online—in a Facebook private message or via the instant messaging function on a dating website—you and the other person may actually be especially authentic in how you present your personality. In general, people are likely to be pretty honest online; most online deception does involve the creation of false identities.It’s certainly true that it can be easier to lie online than offline, particularly about your physical appearance or job.
In addition, as I mentioned earlier, online communication with individuals that we know offline is marked by less lying than in-person communication, and the Facebook social network to a large extent involves presenting information to those in our social network.This means that if you meet people via Facebook, you’re likely to be getting a relatively accurate impression of their overall personality. Some people are more prone to deceptive behavior online than others, such as those high in sensation-seeking, and those who show addictive behavior toward the Internet (Lu, 2008).Sensation-seekers are also more likely to be dishonest offline.In an earlier post, I discussed how people involved in online relationships can develop intense bonds due to the unique ability for the anonymity and control provided by online interactions to enable expression of the “true self”: traits that a person possesses, but does not normally feel comfortable expressing to others.Research has shown that when we chat online, even briefly, these normally hidden traits become more cognitively accessible to us and we actually do succeed in expressing them to others (Bargh et al., 2002).