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I speculated that the women writing to me were subject to some kind of wishful thinking or tunnel-vision, by which they focused only on the good in their boyfriend rather than the advantages of other men. A woman couldn't wishfully think herself into a degree of love so strong that she would feel compelled to write me for help.I eventually realized that these women were being genuine, and I was forced to admit that there was a uniquely feminine mechanism at work.
In addition, and perhaps more importantly, a woman needs to gauge her man's reliability, and this demands time.
“Thank god you picked up,” I whispered to my best friend.
I was huddled in the sticky, single-stall bathroom of an Asian fusion restaurant in Washington, DC, just one closed door away from the dating equivalent of Chernobyl.
Now we are five months into the relationship and things have stagnated a little. Our phone calls are getting shorter, we see each other less frequently, and he's been answering my texts sporadically. Obviously this is just a paraphrase; the details of each story vary.
In general the excitement he showed at the outset seems to have faded. I am completely in love with him and don't know if I can handle a break up. But the common thread among them, and the thing that I found so interesting, was that the woman's love grew gradually, over months, often starting as complete indifference.